For a site with a name like SexFinder.com, we thought it would be a hell of a lot easier than it is to, well, find sex.
Instead, during our time on SexFinder.com, we mainly found a lot of single men pretending to be couples.
This is our big pet peeve with swinger dating, and not just online. This happens frequently with a lot of swinger meet-ups as well, which is one of the reasons we started avoiding the club scene and sticking to online swinger dating sites instead.
Basically at the clubs, a single man will show up and claim to be there for himself and his wife, looking for single women or couples to hook up with. However, no one will ever see the “wife,” and frequently the man will require that the woman or couple “try out” with him first, just so he can see if they’re compatible enough for his wife.
Predictably, there is no wife. It’s just a guy who wants to get laid and thinks that swingers are easy targets, for some reason.
Depressingly, a huge amount of the profiles we found during our SexFinder review seemed to be this kind of thing. For example, we found a lot of “couples” with a man and woman in the photograph, but all of the other photos were of the man, and the profile was obviously written by him. Some of them were very upfront about saying that the man would “test” potential swinging partners before letting them at his hot wife.
As a pro tip, if anyone ever wants to “test” you for swinging, this is not swinging. This is a scam. This is what gross guys do in order to try and score easier than they would be able to online, and scoring online is really easy.
We weren’t too impressed with the ratio of men to women in general. Part of this definitely has to do with the fact that SexFinder.com is another large online site that doesn’t specialize in swinging and the swinging lifestyle, but instead caters to all parts of the online dating scene.
This can be done very well in sites that actually put effort into maintaining each section of the website, like EroticAds.com, our #2 pick for the best swinger’s website on the Internet. With a site like SexFinder.com, however, it just serves as another reminder that specialization is one of the best ways to assure quality control…and it’s lacking here.
Our Results Using SexFinder.com For Swinger Dating
When we signed up for SexFinder.com, we were happy to see how many people were online and in our areas. We were sure this was going to be a huge success, with that many profiles of active members waiting to hear from us.
However, we sent out 300 emails, and it was almost impossible to get any replies. We even sent emails to some single guys and single girls, to see whether there was just some kind of a sampling bias.
We got back a grand total of 28 emails, less than 10% of the 300 we sent out initially. We were shocked to find that our total was so low after how well we did on some of the better sites. As a contrast, we got back well over 200 emails with our top two sites, SwingerProfiles.com and EroticAds.com. That was a reply rate of over 80%, whereas during our SexFinder comparison we got back so few replies we had to wonder…how many of those profiles that are near us are fakes?
Of the 28 emails we got back, we did try to set up some dates. Obviously it wasn’t easy, given how few emails we got back, but we did try.
We set up four whole dates, but even giving those four a chance was too much. All of one “couple” showed up…and it turned out he was a single guy. He said he was really part of a couple and his wife was sick, but we’ve heard that one a million times before. We sent him home alone, and wrote the whole website off as a total bust.
Is SexFinder.com Is Worth It – Or Is SexFinder.com a Scam?
If you’re looking to hook up with single guys who can’t get dates any other way than to pretend they have a hot swinging wife at home, we guess this is as good a place as any.
But if you’re looking for great couples to swing with, you should definitely avoid this website. Our SexFinder test found that very few of the “couples” listed are actually couples. The ones that are, by and large, have been inactive on this site for quite a long time.
There are probably those who will find success on here, because the interface is actually not bad, and the search function works great.
The problem with SexFinder.com is not with the site itself, but with the member base. And no matter how great a site is or could be, when it comes to a website whose only job is to hook people up with other people for a good time, it all comes down to the member base. You can have the best interface for interacting with people in the world, but if there aren’t any people on the other end of the connection to interact with, there’s nothing there for you.
The other problem with SexFinder.com is that it’s a bit slow sometimes. Whenever we loaded pages, it took a lot longer than we thought it would for the next page of results to come up. This isn’t the worst thing in the world, but it’s a lot more annoying waiting for results and seeing they’re crap than finding out right away.
SexFinder.com Review: Should You Use SexFinder.com For Swingers Dating?
SexFinder.com is on our “negative” list for a reason. These profiles are not what they appear to be. Although there aren’t nearly as many “scams” on this site as on some of the others, we’re really not big fans of the huge amount of single men posing as couples. Give it a pass, and check out SwingerProfiles.com instead, and see why that’s our #1 favorite website for swinging fun.