Swingers tend to have a bad reputation for preying on young, beautiful women. It’s not what we are all into and it’s absolutely not what we as a group support. However, single women are almost like the holy grail in swinger circles and not because everyone’s looking to have two girlfriends. There are a lot of reasons why single ladies are coveted other than the obvious.
There just are not a lot of them
Society has a hate for women who like sex. This means that if a chick is curious about swinging, she may keep her pants up until it’s ″suggested″ to her by a male partner. This blows on multiple levels. Women are encouraged to not be adventurous with sex and so they just sit at home or have sex lives that don’t’ fulfill them. The scene suffers because available women are in short supply. They also are afraid that they’ll be judged for being in the swinging scene alone. This means that when they come in a party, odds are that they are attached to someone.
Single women are less intimidating to both genders than men
For couples who are starting out swinging, two extra people can be intimidating. Many men are intimidated by adding another man. The fact of the matter is that the second man also intimidates the women. Other women are largely seen as less threatening and easier to handle than a third male partner. Most of us start out with swaps, moving to threesomes is a logical step. The problem is that single women who are in the scene are in short supply and many swinging couples are a package deal.
Finding a long term partner can be difficult
When you’re already a swinger, dating can be rough. It’s hard to gauge when you can tell a new date about your lifestyle. Many times the reactions aren’t pleasant and it leaves you both feeling hurt and betrayed. This is why meeting your partner at a swingers party is one of the best situations. The problem is that most of the women at swinger events are already taken. It’s extremely bad to try to break up a relationship and most of us wouldn’t want to try. This leaves single swinger men with very few open dating options that don’t come with an awkward conversation or Question and Answer sessions. It would be nice if you could meet more single women at swinger events because then you know that you are both into the same thing. Considering that relationships do best with a common ground and knowing that you are both swingers is a great place to start.
Because women are pressured to not be receptive to sex without someone showing them the way, they don’t tend to flock to swinger parties before they’re dating. This means that there are not a lot of them walking around swinger circles. That’s a bit ironic, since women are by far less intimidating to new swingers than men. That’s frustrating because this makes it much harder to find someone to date, who will understand your lifestyle.