Going to a swingers party for the first time can be exciting as well as scary. You need to know how to dress, what to say, how to act, what to do, and what to take along with you. Basic etiquette applies when attending these parties. You should be polite and act like you would at any other party. Wear things that are easily removable, and bring a few basics to help you have fun throughout the night.
If you don’t know the people at the party, you should bring plenty of condoms. Some swingers don’t like condoms and will refuse sex with you if you use them, but they are safe and you should always use them. Bring more than one though, because if you use a condom with one person you will want to change it before having sex with another partner. This is to keep everyone involved safe and happy.
Bring extra lube in case the partner you choose needs the help. This will cut down on time and will save any embarrassment he or she may feel during sexual acts. This can also help you in case you start to get a little dry from the condoms and the constant flow of sex.
While you can wear sexy lingerie under your clothing, you may also want to bring something to put on if there is a lull in the party. A sexy nightie or even a sexy pair of boxers can keep things comfortable and arousing as the night progresses.
Toys and cleaner
You may run into a situation where the partner you choose needs or wants sex toys. So, bring some along and try them out with various partners. Just like the condom situation, you’ll want to bring a cleaner to keep the toys clean between partners. These do not have to be just dildos though. You can also use handcuffs, blindfolds and whips. Make sure everyone involved is comfortable before you use any of these products.
A change of clothing
If your clothing gets messy or damaged in any way during the night you may need something else to wear. Bring a change of clothing that will be easy to change and can fit into a small bag.
Wet wipes and sanitizer
If you want to clean up after the party is over, bring wipes and hand sanitizer with you. Do not expect that the hostess or host will provide these things, all though she or he may. It’s always safe to bring your own cleaning products. In addition, bring Listerine or a travel toothbrush and deodorant. You want to stay fresh throughout the night as you swap partners, so bring what you’ll need to help you. Avoid gum as this can make for some awkward situations if it gets in the way.
Sometimes the host or hostess of the party will request people to bring additional items. You should comply with such requests. You may also bring a gift for the host or hostess to thank them for inviting you. This can be a candle, food for the party, or even a sex toy. Knowing what gift to bring is sometimes tricky, but if you don’t know you can simply ask them what they would prefer. Pack all of these items in a small bag and know where that bag is kept. It may be hard to carry it around with you during the night, but if you know where it is at all times you can reach it easily when you need items from it.