When we’re out in public, it can be hard to tell if another couple is potentially a pair of swingers, especially when you are in the glaring fluorescent lights of a grocery store instead of the dimmer lighting of the club. That doesn’t stop us from being interested in them and feel physical attraction or maybe something more. Find our top three tips below which will help you to figure out if they’ll be open to swinging.
Consider the Details of Your Surroundings
So you’ve just exchanged introductions and you know already that they are the two most interesting, charming, and witty people you have ever met. Or maybe you just have time to kill and are curious about what they look like naked; if they look that good in those parkas and ski masks, what would they look like beside the fire in nothing but skin? Your lover is already interested; you can tell this by the way she’s looking at them. Before you assume they might be interested in return, consider the context.
“Are you in a sex club? Are you at a swingers’ party?” If the answer to either of these questions is yes, then you can make a safe bet that they are swingers. (If the answer to both is yes then you’re at a sex club that also holds swingers’ parties and you live in the best place ever and we need to move there right now. Also, they certainly are swingers.) On the other hand, are you at a quilting club or maybe Bible study? Hold off on assuming, no matter how hard they seem to be trying to take off your lover’s and your clothes with their minds. If nothing else, asking there means you’ll probably need to find a new church, and you’ve been through there already just because you assumed people were swingers and interested in you.
How Physical Are Their Interactions with Others?
Watch how the couple you’re interested in acts with others around them. They’re probably touching each other often. Are they also touching the other couple? A hand on an arm when they crack a joke probably doesn’t mean anything; brushing hair out of someone’s eyes, on the other hand, is a pretty good indicator. So is cupping someone’s cheek or running a hand down their back. Are they currently flirting with the other couple, beyond that joke? That’s telling, but it’s still not safe to assume. Now, if they start kissing members of the other couple, and we don’t mean on the forehead, then we’re pretty sure that you can assume it. Ask anyway, though, in case they’re just polyamorous. There’s nothing like hitting on people who are committed to three others and have no interest in anything casual.
When You Asked if They Swing, They Said ‘Yes’
We hope this one is a clear enough sign for you.