The Golden Rule of Swinging
The Golden Rule that we learned in kindergarten is, “Be good to others the same way you want them to be good to you.” The Golden Rule of Swinging is kind of like that: “Always use protection and be safe.”
You don’t want to run the risk of catching something from anybody, whatever you’re into at the moment. You know these people well, since you’ve at least seen them at parties, but that doesn’t mean you know their current test results. Even if you did, you don’t know the results of everyone they’ve been with tonight or since they last got tested.
It’s the same with you. You know your test results, your partner knows your HIV status, but no-one else does, unless you run into your doctor at a party (Wouldn’t that be awkward?). Even then, you don’t know how you’d test at the moment, since you’ve been with people since you were last tested. If you’ve been exposed to something, you shouldn’t expose others.
Safe sex isn’t the golden rule for this thing alone. There are a lot of diseases that must be reported to the health departments, which then contact all your sex partners to have them tested. STDs spread like wildfire when people have sex outside fluid-bonded relationships and don’t use protection. If enough people fail to use protection, then your entire community could end up getting calls from the health department, which is enough to put the kibosh on anyone’s idea of fun.
Then there’s another little issue with safe sex, unless you want to tell someone who is just fifteen or sixteen years old, “We conceived you at the swinging party.” Even if it doesn’t get that far, the woman involved is still going to either take a heavy hormonal hit with the morning after pill, deal with a medical abortion, or shall even have a surgical abortion if it’s been long enough. You might never know about it, but that doesn’t make you any less responsible for the fact that she’s going through that. If you think any of those are like a walk in the park, we suggest you talk to a gynecologist.
Yeah, that’s what we thought.
Then there’s the immediate practicality. You probably either chipped in for the condoms or paid nothing, and they’re there. So why not use them? Especially for one reason that pays off immediately: all you do is take it off and toss it out, and you’re good to go again. (Ladies, we can’t help you there, we’re sorry. Though, the condom did help you a little bit.) It’s the world’s easiest post-sex cleanup.
Finally, there’s the fun aspect. You don’t have to use ribbed ones—but you could, and they feel awesome for both of you. Lube doesn’t absorb into them, so things stay slicker. Face it, sex with a condom can actually be better than sex without a condom, especially when “without” could result in an awkward phone call.