When It Doesn’t Go Well
Everyone has a bad night often. For whatever reason, you have a hard time getting it up, or you have trouble concentrating and just can’t find your rhythm, can’t manage to get her off etc. Everyone knows that it can happen. What if such a situation arises at a swinger party? Now that could be a problem. It probably won’t mean no one wants to swap with you again, but it does mean that your community might find out you’re not a total sex god. Here’s our advice for what to do when it happens.
Take Care of Her
Your first priority, whether you came too soon or can’t at all or have trouble getting it up, is to take care of her. You don’t want to look bad to every woman at the party, and the news will spread fast if you are selfish enough to only think about yourself. What would you do if it was just you and your lady? You’d get her off no matter what your issue is, right? So do it for this lady too. Go down on her, finger her, make out with her, at least give her a massage. You want to keep things good between the two of you, if only because she’s the only one who knows just how bad your performance actually started out. If you’re lucky, she’ll want to swap with you again.
Don’t Act Embarrassed
If you act embarrassed, everyone’s going to think you’re acting like a kid who shot off too soon in his first time. Treat it for what it is: something that can happen to every guy. You don’t need to talk about it, but if it gets mentioned, just say something like, “It’s not my night, but my lady’s having fun, so we’re sticking around.” Odds are pretty good you’re not the first guy there to have an off night at a party. Since you don’t have to worry about your performance getting any worse, go ahead and grab a beer, have a drink while your lady finds her next partner.
Don’t Ruin It for Your Lady
Just because you’re having trouble doesn’t mean that even she has to face it. If you’re a total jerk about things, you can pull her away from the fun she’s having and tell her you’re leaving, but you risk her not wanting to ever go again in case you go all caveman a second time. Instead, help her find a single guy or a couple who are going their separate ways for a while. Make sure the other guy knows that you’re okay with not getting anything to yourself. Even if you think you might be better this time, it’s not worth risking two bad performances in a night. Instead, watch her with a guy and use your hand. It’s still going to be hot watching her, especially watching her have that much fun. You don’t need to have a sex partner to enjoy that part of swinging.