You have just started thinking about being a swinger, and you’re not sure how to become one. The thought excites you, but is this a step you’re ready to take? If you try being a swinger, there is no rule to say that you have to make it a lifestyle. Being a lifestyle swinger takes dedication and patience. There are key differences between one time or occasional swingers and lifestyle swingers.
Lifestyle swingers are people who are swingers for life and enjoy living their life. These people generally cannot be in exclusive, sexually monogamous relationships and they invite their partners into this lifestyle because it’s a part of who they are. They may have a circuit of swinger parties or clubs they attend, and they know all the local swingers by name. They have their weekends planned to swinger clubs just the same way as other people plan a vacation to the beach. For them, this lifestyle is not taboo and they have become used to it.
Another key point of a lifestyle swinger is that they tend to like both sexes, so they do not discriminate between men and women at parties. If this is not something you’re comfortable with, chances of you becoming a lifestyle swinger are slim. If this is something you enjoy thinking about, you could very well be in the prime position to be a lifestyle swinger. This does not mean that you have to be bi-sexual to be a lifestyle swinger, but more often, people who claim this lifestyle enjoy both sexes.
One-time swingers generally attend a swinger’s party once or maybe more than once. But this does not mean they are lifestyle swingers. For one, they don’t know when the parties are held unless someone (who is a lifestyle swinger) invites them, and they don’t like people of both sexes. Also, one-time swingers can be monogamous with someone else and they don’t tend to share their adventures in swinger parties with other people openly, seeing this as something taboo and dirty.
Finally, a one-time swinger doesn’t usually feel comfortable in clubs or on vacations at swinger’s resorts. If you were really ingrained in that lifestyle you would be ok with this sort of thing. If it makes you uncomfortable or turns you off, chances are that you won’t like the lifestyle of being a swinger all the time.
Attending one or two swinger’s parties doesn’t make a person a swinger for life. It just make them a one-time, or occasional swinger. Experimental swinger is another name that can be given to such a person. The lifestyle of a swinger is not as easy as going to a few parties and sharing your partner. This is something that takes understanding, commitment, and acceptance that not everyone will accept your decisions. If being a swinger for life is something you want, it is becoming easier and easier to do as society has started to accept it more and more.