Handling the Fresh Blood
Assume that you are in a swinging party. You’re having a drink, flirting with that one lady you’ve seen a couple of times before, and you think tonight might be the time for the two of you to do something about it. And then you look up and see a brand-new couple. They look kind of embarrassed and don’t seem to know where to put their eyes. What will you think? Will you think, “Damn, I hate newbie’s,” or you’ll be like, “Awesome, this could be great!”
Admit It: You Too Were Once New
Think back, all the way back to your first time swinging.
Yeah, that’s right, you haven’t always done this. In fact, we bet you either cheated or were fully monogamous in at least one relationship. Do we have that right? You weren’t a precocious high school swinger?
That’s what we thought.
At one point, you were that new guy. You had no idea where to put your eyes. You weren’t sure about the things in the party. You knew a bit, but you didn’t believe it yet that flirting was okay. You were even less sure about actually touching a chick besides the one you came with. How did your first time go? It must have been okay. After all, you’re still doing it.
Getting Them Settled
The party’s hosts are probably off, doing something when you see the newbie’s. Otherwise, they’d look a bit less freaked out. So why don’t you and the lady you’re flirting with, go to say hi? Go on. Being nice is going to make you look good.
Try to offer them a drink. They should be old enough for that. Point out where they can find condoms. Don’t be overly touchy, but it shall be okay to touch her arm or something, just to get her settled. Your lady friend is probably doing the same with the guy. You might have to put off getting with your lady friend until later in the night or maybe even until another night, but if you take one for the team, you’ll look good to her and get another good point on your reputation with everyone else in the party.
Why You Should Be Supportive
Swinging is never going to go away entirely. It hasn’t before, and it won’t now. But if you want to keep your swinging community alive, you need to welcome new members, just the same way as any other community does. When you started out, you were probably either shocked or overwhelmed at what you were doing and the fact that you actually had permission to have sex with any interested woman around, and those women too were kind to you. The men did the same for your lady. And you’ve made friends from the community, even if you probably won’t ever tell most people how you met them. You’ve probably met at least one by asking his wife to have sex with you. These freaked-out new people could be your future friends. More importantly, once this freaked-out chick settles down, she might have sex with you soon. What can be a better way to welcome her to the party?