If you have ever considered being a swinger, someone who swaps partners for sex only, you may be wondering how to approach your partner. This can be a sensitive subject for women because for some it indicates that their partner isn’t satisfied with them, or no longer finds them attractive. If this is something you have truly considered doing, you need to make sure your relationship can handle it. There are three prerequisites all relationships must fulfill, before entering the world of swinger parties.
Every relationship needs trust, but for your partner to be able to share you (and for you to share her) with another person or with multiple people, you need to have a deep level of trust. When discussing your thoughts on being swingers with your partner, make sure that they know you love them and don’t want to leave them. Once they trust that this is purely about spicing up the romance in your relationship, the two of you will be able to discuss the possibility of being swingers more openly. Also keep in mind that to develop a deep level of trust with someone you need to have a proven track record of commitment within your relationship. This may take time to develop and a new relationship won’t have the same type of foundation that a long-term relationship has.
Good sexual relationship
In order to be with other people and have your relationship survive, you need to be able to satisfy one another. To take your sex life to the next level, you need to have a sex life to start with. If either of you is having issues in the bedroom, being swingers will only hurt more and it will wedge a gap between the two of you. Partners that are good in swinging relationships are partners that are good with one another, both sexually and non-sexually.
Finally, you have to communicate with one another. If you cannot communicate about your feelings, life and every other little thing relationships require, there is no way you’ll be able to discuss being swingers. Additionally, being a swinger means you have a strong communication bond with your partner. You need to set goals and boundaries and both of you need to be clear on what those are before becoming swingers. If you are uncomfortable about something, or if she feels something needs to change, you need to be able to discuss these things openly with one another. Not being able to do so can harm your relationship, especially when other people are being intimate with the two of you.
Having trust and communication, as well as a healthy sexual relationship with your partner, are the key ingredients to make a swinging relationship work. Your reasons for being a swinger probably have nothing to do with being dissatisfied with your partner and you definitely don’t want to hurt them. Ask your partner in a respectful tone, approach the topic with reason, and be open to discussion. If your relationship has these three prerequisites in place, you and your partner should be fine with entering a swinging relationship.